“Ask women in their teens and 20s who are in relationships with older men about guys their own age, and you’ll invariably hear laments about young men’s immaturity,” Schwyzer says.
“That callowness is often oversold by too many aging Lotharios wanting to emphasize the difference between their own supposed expertise and young men’s clumsiness.” Mmm-hmm. According to Schwyzer, many young women end up with older men who are “deeply unsafe.” For his part, Schwyzer urges older men to mentor younger men instead of taking advantage of the younger women those young men should be dating.
I’d always felt pretty mature for my age (as so many women do), and especially in comparison to the guys around me.
), younger women have become such a normal and regular part of my life, I no longer consider it something unique or interesting enough to talk about. Since we’re talking about much younger women here, this article is really geared towards men over age 30 or so.Schwyzer, on the other hand, believes that men are not hardwired to be attracted to younger women.He contends, rather, that “much of the appeal” men find in dating younger women is “the hope of finding someone less demanding.” He says, “A man in his 40s who wants to date women in their 20s is making the same calculation as the man who pursues a “mail-order bride” from a country with less egalitarian values.Now that I’m single in my 30’s, I really only want to date guys very close to my age.Less than a handful of years younger would be okay, and maybe one or two years older, but that’s about it.