Remind her that you won’t be meeting any nice boys because you are a lesbian.
There sure are a lot of biologists on your online dating site.
Without them, you will end up posting a photo with kale in your teeth, or where there is clearly a dog using the restroom in the background. Attend events specifically targeted towards lesbians like you.
While you wait for responses, go find the queerest bar nearby. Don’t try to explain why Kathleen Hanna is problematic while dancing. Wonder, “why do so many of these girls have bow-ties on?
Get used to a mix of pop hits, Shakira, and Bikini Kill.
Hone your ability to turn a conversation into a fun tête-à-tête. Assume that at any moment, they might sour, and you will need to disengage. When someone asks how you are doing, never mention the harassment, mis-gendering, or stress you’re going through.
It doesn’t matter if they actually care about you for who you are as a person, there are many who enjoy distilling you to your transgender history. Laugh to yourself at all the ridiculously sad people who would want to hurt you and your partner.
Meet Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender people in your area. This isn’t in reference to any particular difficulty facing trans women, though there are many; it is always helpful to lower your expectations. Ok Cupid, Match, or Tinder; it doesn’t really matter where, but you’ll need one. Whatever you think might happen in the next few paragraphs, or in the next few months, expect less. In 2013, an online petition asking OKCupid to accommodate trans and genderqueer people received more than 1,000 signatures.Ryley Pogensky, the genderqueer person who created the petition, said that when he asked OKCupid about adding more gender identity options, a representative told him it would be difficult to change the site because it was built “in a pretty binary way.” La Mon has noticed that his male and female OKCupid profiles get different matches.