As the first hint of a smile starts to draw across her face, she turns her eyes forward again and keeps walking down the street. – The version of you that connects deeply with all people rather than just waiting for a beautiful woman to come along and fill that empty hole in his life. It’s only once you take full responsibility for what’s happened and how you felt when it happened that you can EVER hope to eliminate it for good. It puts full control of your life back in your hands and takes it out of those who have no interest in seeing you succeed.
Knowing what the problem is doesn’t change anything.
Go through your wardrobe and get rid of everything you own simply because you thought someone else might like you more because you own it. There’s no point in knowing that you’re responsible for your life situation if you don’t do anything to change it. And you can do it in a way that means you’re not dependent on nice smiles and flirty arm touches to feel good about yourself.
Go through your cupboards and throw out everything you held on to because you thought it might one day impress someone. Stop living your life based on someone else’s life plan Stop living the life that someone else has prescribed for you. Stop ANY activity you’re currently participating in, just because other people have told you that you should be there. There’s no point in knowing that you’re responsible for the pain and frustration you go through if you don’t do anything to eliminate it. Get up, do something, make a difference, and take control. It’s your fault that women ignored you, it’s your fault that women rejected you, it’s your fault that women laughed at you, and it’s your fault that you felt shit when they did. So there are no more excuses, no more reasons, no more defences for sitting on your arse and blaming the world around you.
It’s as if they hit their tipping point after being tortured and developed the belief system that nothing could be worse, so why be fearful.
Her big eyes track your voice back to your lips and she lifts them to meet your gaze. She doesn’t ask your name and she doesn’t give you hers. – The version of ‘you’ that finds his sense of self worth in the work he does rather than in the way people respond to him. And how that could leave you angry and in pain when things don’t go your way… If you still believe that the world is responsible for your life situation and how you feel about it, then the world around you is the only thing that can ever change your life situation or how you feel about it. You’re a victim of your reality and forever will be.
Women were flirting with the guys they were attracted to and were rejecting the ones who weren’t. At first, all you can see is a soft halo of light as the sun catches the fringes of her hair. Because that interaction, or any interaction with any woman, didn’t determine how you felt about your life. When the balls in your court, you control the rules of the game.
I was being laughed at because I was worthy of being laughed at. I was either being too needy and clingy or approaching women who clearly weren’t ready to be approached. But, there is always something that you contributed to the situation that you can change. This might even make you angry, but at the end of the day, when you strip the problem right back to the core, this is all that’s left. But as she bounces and glides through the crowd, you can see more: the radiant smile, the warm eyes, the effortless way she floats amongst the thriving crowd with ease. You weren’t relying on that interaction to go well so you could feel like a real man, and so you weren’t torn to pieces when it didn’t. Every time you wake up feeling frustrated, alone and empty? When you create something, you have to take full responsibility for it. If you’re responsible for her not being attracted to you, then you can change that.
So instead of putting themselves out there to possibly be rejected, they don’t do anything and get no results. They are basically rejecting themselves, so that they won’t experience being rejected by a woman.
I was responding to comments that people post on my blog and I stumbled across one that made me think, this guy gets it!!