This data captures dating patterns in broad strokes — it certainly doesn’t mean that every guy you meet in NYC is looking for an open relationship.
So please give us your thoughts on your city and your dating experience there in the comments below.
And it’s even harder for men; New York the very worst US city for guys messaging women, who reply to men’s messages only 10% of the time.
While New York may be the most difficult place to get a message, it’s got some upsides —daters don’t ghost here as much as they do in other cities.
Sometimes I forget that the way I date here in New York City is unique. Here, career-focused daters work long hours, a cocktail costs , and there are over 200,000 more single women than men.
We quickly realized that the story didn't end after reminding you that it's hard to avoid an ex in the bulk aisle of Whole Foods. And they are terrifying, true tales from the crypt.It’s well known that everyone in Portland either freelances or works in the service industry (or both!) so that coveted seven o’clock dinner date probably isn’t in the cards, and morning coffee is kinda played out. Oh, and we're definitely judging you by what you order. Soy-free, dairy-free, gluten-free, definitely meat-free, and "have been known to break out into hives if the onions were picked on a weekend." Luckily most restaurants are used to this sort of behavior. Everyone has a garden, brews their own beer, and makes moldy sauerkraut because that’s definitely how it was done by their host family that semester abroad in Germany.But reading these stories did give us a joyous taste of schadenfreude, an undoing of the fantasy-filled tropes of romantic comedy. He told me he was still hungover from an OKC date he had the night before. I mean, I probably have HPV, but I dunno, men can't get tested for that shit.' "He paid for my drinks and I ordered him a Lyft home from his phone." —Jo Ann Schinderle, dating podcast co-host "I met my former boyfriend Carl on Valentine's Day, and we went to a bicycle battle royale where someone started a food fight. Conversation is flowing, she's laughing, I'm charming. The downside of a communal dining restaurant is that you have no privacy, making awkward situations worse. We had several dates and one night he ended up staying over, and we cuddled by the fire. Two weeks later I get a mysterious phone call asking me lots of questions about myself, as well as confirming information. I was then informed it was the lawyer of said disappearing date, and that disappearing date had been in a halfway house and didn't make curfew, and as a result had been sent back to federal prison.When I asked if he wore condoms, he said aggressively, 'What? I got hit in the face with a slice of moldy pizza from a dumpster, and he helped me clean the grease off my face. But then they're like, 'I totally care about you, I just need to fuck other people, and you're not invited.'"—Anonymous "Okay, so I've never had good luck in love. One day in '08 (pre-app era), I tried internet dating. Then, before the entrée shows up, guess who walks in the front door? No, you can't make this stuff up, and no, it's not what you think. He didn't fight me, or even acknowledge my presence. The next morning, I dropped him at home and he said he would call me later. I was then told that disappearing date had stated I was the only person he knew in the area that he could remain sober around, and as a result could he be remanded to my custody until said date could be deposited in a drug treatment center on Monday due to parole violation.