These conversations are never identical, but there are consistent ingredients: incredulity, hilarity and a twinge of envy and delight at the novelty of it all.
While folks may expect salacious tales of group sex and jealous rages, the true story involves managing my love life through Google calendar and happily watching friendships develop between my partners.
Chris had never dated anyone before who already had a partner, so I had no idea how it was going to go.
Not having a specific picture in mind was probably for the best, though.
I was already in a relationship, and though my then-partner had previously been non-monogamous, I didn't think it was a good fit for me: I panic about people keeping secrets and choosing others over me.
But on our first lunch together, I was as taken with Jairus's long eyelashes as with his willingness to talk about childhood challenges.
He was so kind and encouraging about it, though, that it was the start of a massive shift.
Now I can meet friends out for visits most days and even go places like the park by myself, which is a big step for me.