Media Contact: Barbara Fornasiero; EAFocus Communications, 248.260.8466; [email protected] Connell Linton, Woll & Woll, 248.354.6070, [email protected], Mich.– April 26, 2016 – Beginning a new relationship after divorce can be tricky, especially if there are minor children involved. C., a Michigan-based divorce and family law practice with more than 20 years of experience in complex family law issues, offers eight tips for divorced parents as they pursue a romantic life post-divorce: “Children don’t need to be introduced to a revolving door of romantic partners,” Woll said.But if it works out with so and so, won’t you be happy that I have someone in my life who makes me happy after you leave home? I know that’s hard to hear, but I think when you grow up and fall madly in love, you will understand.” This should be followed by many hugs and kisses.Obviously, every situation is different, but try to put yourself in your kids’ heads, and then attempt to help them understand how YOU feel. This is a mistake a lot of people make, in my opinion. They get this new boyfriend (or girlfriend) and they feel like you did in high school, so in love, and all they want to do is see him or her. So, every time they make plans with the kids, they invite him or her. Make sure to have plans with your kids without your new guy at times. Don’t fight your gut instinct about someone you are dating, especially when this new person may impact not only your life, but the lives of your children.” About Woll & Woll, P. One of the many reasons I love being a divorce website writer and dating columnist is that almost every time I meet someone new and they find out what I do, they ask me for either dating or divorce advice, or in the case of two nights ago, dating after divorce with kids advice.
Renowned researcher Constance Ahrons, who conducted a 20-year study of children of divorce, concluded that most children find their parent’s courtship behaviors confusing and strange.On the other hand, adolescents may appear more accepting of your new partner than younger children, but they may still perceive that person as a threat to your relationship.also found that teenagers may find open affection between their parent and a partner troubling – so go easy on physical contact in front of them.“Once kids hit their pre-teen years, they do not want to feel their parent is carrying on a secret part of life.Keep the conversation and amount of information shared age appropriate in terms of what children are told about the new someone in your life.” “A parent’s reaction and behavior toward the ex’s dating can directly impact children and how they feel about the new relationship,” Woll said.