our first public appearance was in a blog article we published on the Tapestry Blog about dating for seniors titled “9 Things You Didn’t Know About Dating for 55 ”.
The article shared some of the interesting lessons we had learned about dating for seniors from a closed trial we had been running in Northern California, and asked people to let us know if they wanted to be involved in a more expanded trial.
Several of today’s dating services are built specifically around this concept: Grouper, for example, hooks up groups of young people in bars and offers them a free first drink as part of the package. The fundamental premise behind most dating services for young people is that the ultimate goal is to find love and marriage.
While this is true for some older adults, it is far from universal.
Once you get into your fifties and beyond, the actual number of your age becomes less and less significant.
Far more important is what shape you are in, how healthy you are, what activities you can do. If you’re active and like going for long walks and playing golf, you’re going to be much more interested in the fit and energetic 82-year-old who can share your activities than the 65-year-old with the hip replacement who can no longer walk long distances. Stitch Update: the registrations we are now seeing for Stitch is consistent with this sentiment, where the 50% of people are seeking companionship and not romance are telling us that age isn’t important to them as long as their companion can keep up with them.
This is why, for most older adults, a dinner date is the most important first step towards finding companionship.
We realized immediately that our little trial of online dating for seniors was something that resonated with people all over the world, and that we needed to go ahead and build something that would help us touch the lives of older adults everywhere.What stands out as the most important aspect of a person when determining if you may be a potential match? With Tinder (and pretty much every other online dating system on the market today) the photo is all-important.This reinforces a message that young people get hammered with on a daily basis: nothing matters more than how you look.And always being the lone single person when your married friends want to catch up for dinner starts to become a little tiresome.More than any other activity, dinner is where older adults feel the isolation of being alone most strongly.