A recent study found that one in five children online is approached by a sexual predator, a predator who may try to set up a face-to-face meeting.In a Dateline hidden camera investigation, correspondent Chris Hansen catches some of these men in the act.· Becoming secretive or evasive about your activities, changing your passwords, getting new anonymous email addresses, setting up fake profiles, joining a dating or cheating hook-up site?· Avoiding getting into serious conversations with your partner? · Spending a large amount of time (in person or online) talking, sharing, confiding with your friend and not telling your partner about it? Sexual Chemistry · Finding yourself sexually and/or emotionally aroused when you think about or have contact with your "friend"? · Imagining you are in bed with your "friend," while making love with your partner?And they all had something in common: the same excuse.Just about every man who came to our house said it was the first time he had done something like this and most claimed they really had no intention of having sex with a minor.
· Beginning to emotionally or physically withdraw from your partner, preferring to spend time away, online, talking or texting with your "friend" vs. · Constantly checking to see if your "friend" has made contact and/or are continually trying to come up with ways to connect and have contact?
Take this 60-second reality check quiz from my book "Chatting or Cheating" to see whether it's just chatting or if you're really cheating.
The key is whether the 3 S's are present: Shared intimacy, Secrecy and exclusion, or Sexual chemistry. Shared Intimacy · Exchanging personal, intimate, and confidential information (and/or had offline contact) with an online "friend" that your partner doesn't know about?
It's easier than ever to meet others, stay constantly (and secretly) in contact, get intimate and cheat on our partners.
That's why is so much more potent: Instant access to our lover is in our pocket, our purse, or laptop. We can do it while the kids are playing in the backyard or our partner is downstairs watching TV or cooking dinner.