First, you can curb the flow of incoming responses by either deleting your photos or hiding your profile.That way, you can deal with only the existing guys in a timely and fair manner.You may notice that it sounds very similar to the one you read ten seconds ago.However, I don’t feel the necessary “click” to continue to move things forward with our relationship. You don’t have to promise to stay in touch as friends.You’re a great guy and I’m glad I had the chance to get to know you. You don’t have to do anything, except give him a slightly diluted version of the truth, so you don’t hurt his feelings when you reject him.I’m sure you’re going to make some girl really happy one day. Sure, he can press you on WHY you didn’t feel it for him.Talking in Person Sending a Text Remaining Friends, If Possible Community Q&A Sometimes, after a first date, one person might feel a spark while the other does not.
So I’m going to hide my profile on for now and see where things go.
I feel like I need some formal practice – I would totally sign up for a workshop that was nothing but 2 hours straight of saying, “no, thank you, it was nice to meet you, I know we had a great chat about X, but the chemistry isn’t there for me and I don’t want a second date,” over and over until the cringy awkwardness was washed out of it. (Yes, I’ve looked – no luck so far.) If not, any suggestions on overcoming my extreme internal resistance to being so blunt? The problem is that there’s usually going to be one person who is more invested than the other person.
And this power imbalance means that broken hearts are par for the course.
If you’re communicating with 7-10 decent guys in your inbox, that will usually result in about 2 dates.
If one of the dates doesn’t pan out, you can either promote guys from the minor leagues, or reactivate your photos/profile to get more incoming traffic. Finding the One Online has an entire CD that describes how to flirt with men in a way that keeps their attention and slows them down to a pace you’re comfortable with.