“She spent all of her time with him, and I felt like I was invisible.
The worst part was that I was friendly to him, but he wasn’t friendly to me, so I was very uncomfortable around both of them.
Christi tells about a close friend who fell in love with the “perfect” guy: tall, athletic, good-looking and fun to be around.
He treated her well, but had little interest in furthering his relationship with God.
That includes resisting the urge to talk about what a loser this person is to all of your friends.
A few years later, the friend met an incredible man who had all the qualities of her previous boyfriend, including love for God.Christi said, “God had been at the forefront of my friend’s heart, but he was getting overshadowed by the new boyfriend and all his wonderful personal qualities.It became clear to me that her own spiritual growth was suffering greatly, and I made the choice to talk to her about it.” “The words were painful for me to say and for her to hear,” Christi remembers, “and I wondered about the future of our friendship as I gently spoke my observations and feelings.” For the next few days, her friend spent some time talking with God and examining her own heart and motives.Like Ann discovered, it may take a major effort to stay connected with your friend.Friendships don’t stop simply because one person develops a romantic relationship with someone else.