As INTJs intuitively form impressions about the world, they naturally want to express them via their auxiliary Te.
And because INTJs often prefer expressing themselves orally rather than in writing, they seek out others interested in hearing their knowledge and insights (they resemble INFJs in this respect).
This may inspire them to gather as many facts and self-help strategies as they can regarding human psychology and relationships.
While there is certainly nothing wrong with doing so, it may not always remedy their predicament in the way they might expect.
It is therefore important for partners to remember that INTJs’ first priority is accuracy of perception, so if the INTJ happens to be wrong, there is a good chance he will eventually come to recognize it.
In order to compensate for such misunderstandings, INTJs might reason that if they could only understand people better they could overcome their relational difficulties.
We’ve already seen how, as J types, INTJs are prone to seeing and diagnosing problems outside themselves.
In fact, one of the primary reasons INTJs seek relationships is to have someone to share ideas with.
As David Keirsey put it, for INTJs, love often comes (and arguably should come) in the form of a “mindmate.” Unfortunately, finding a suitable mindmate is rarely an easy task for the INTJ.
INTJs may also be labeled as excessively stubborn or rigid, although this too relates to Te-related misunderstandings.
As we’ve seen, INTJs are best viewed as dominant Perceivers, so while they may appear stubborn in a moment of judgment, their preferred state is one of inner openness.