|~| Although polygyny had a long history in pre-colonial Filipino civilization and was common in the Muslim community prior to the 1970s, polygynous marriages are the exception today.The majority of sophisticated, highly educated males, whether Muslim or Christian, choose to be monogamous for financial reasons.During this period, the couple becomes established in jobs, pays for the education of younger siblings, and acquires household items.A woman who reaches the age of thirty-two without marrying is considered past the age for marriage.
The majority of cohabiting couples in the provinces are separated from their legal spouses because divorce is illegal and they cannot be civilly or religiously married.
Women believe that marriage to a wealthy man or a foreigner will guarantee happiness.
Divorce is illegal, but annulment is available for the dissolution of a marriage. Leyson wrote in the Encyclopedia of Sexuality: “The colonial view of the sacredness of marriage includes a strong social condemnation of cohabitation for unmarried couples.
In rural areas, young men have traditionally serenaded women under their bedroom window. Tuksuhan lang (just teasing) is the usual term associated with pairing off potential couples in Filipino culture. It is a way of matching people who may have mutual admiration or affection for each other.
It may end up in a romance or avoidance of each other if the situation becomes embarrassing for both individuals.[Source: Center for Southeast Asian Studies Northern Illinois University, edu ] Tuksuhan (teasing--and a girl's reaction to it) is a means for 'feeling out' a woman's attitude about an admirer or suitor.