Boundaries are not meant to punish, but are for your well-being and protection.They’re more effective when you’re assertive, calm, firm, and courteous. We know that if someone tries to steal our car, it's illegal. They establish 'what is me' and 'what isn't me.' Personal Boundaries help us create ownership and protection of ourselves. We know that not just anyone can open the front door of our home, walk inside, go to the fridge, grab whatever they want and plonk on our couch.Love can’t exist without boundaries, even with your children.It’s easy to understand external boundaries as your bottom line.
If yours weren’t valued as a child, you didn’t learn you had them.This made me feel powerless and that I didn’t have a right to say “stop” when I was uncomfortable.In recovery, I gained the capacity to tell a masseuse to stop and use less pressure.If you feel anxious or guilty about setting boundaries, remember, your relationship suffers when you’re unhappy.Once you get practice setting boundaries, you feel empowered and suffer less anxiety, resentment, and guilt.