Since having confidence in your life decisions is more easily said than done, it can help to know that most guys won't think you are weird for being a virgin; and if a guy is put off by it, it is because he wasn't that into you to begin with. How should you tell guys you are dating that you are a virgin?
In order to answer this question, we need to look more closely at what I mean by the topic "coming up naturally." This could happen fairly directly - for example, over dinner on a first date, if he is bold enough to bring up sex and the conversation takes a natural path towards sexual experience.
One of the most common questions I get from readers is "what will he think if he finds out that I am a virgin?
" I've already written a post answering this question, but I also want to discuss the best way to go about dating as a virgin.
Not having kissed a girl, on the other hand, was just a product of my inability to attract the kind of girl I wanted to kiss.
But anyway, the point is that I know how much pressure a girl (or woman) can feel to live up to what she sees as the socially acceptable level of sexual experience for someone her age.
If you skipped the conversation about favorite movies, or family, or personal interests, you'd be missing a big piece of the picture.
Likewise, if you only talked about how much you both love that one comedian, and never brought up those topics that make you a little nervous to discuss, you'd be missing out on important information about the other person.
If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.Let me be clear: I am not going to tell you that virginity is right or wrong, and I am not going to tell you whether or not you should stay a virgin.That is a normative decision, and not mine to make for you.And even though my beliefs have changed a lot since then, I can also identify with the belief that sex should be saved for marriage, or at least for some significant level of feeling or commitment.There is no doubt in my mind that female virgins feel this pressure.