In reality, he is off sizing up his next target somewhere. It could be an ex-wife or ex-girlfriend, a friend of the same sex, or even a celebrity. The final phase of the psychopath is the "discard" phase.In the psychopaths mind, everyone else wants him, so you better be on your best behavior, or he will move on to one of his adoring fans. After he sucks you in with idealization, then begins to devalue you, he will suddenly discard you as if you never had a relationship. He will usually move on to another target at this point. "Hoovering." Although a psychopath will discard you, he doesn't quite want you moving on either.If he senses you are done with him, he will suddenly do an about-face, and begin bombarding you with pleas to stay together.He will try to "Hoover" (named after the vacuum cleaning company) you back in by saying everything you've ever wanted to hear, making a million promises, and suddenly being on his absolute best behavior.It's all an act so he can get you back into the fold.
You might think that's something you'd know right away by the red tint of evil in the person's eyes, the swastika tat on the forehead, or the insistence on discussing serial killers over dinner. Psychopaths can be extremely charming and come across like Prince Charming at first. On the first date, he'll probably tell you that you are stunningly beautiful, unbelievably intelligent, and uproariously witty.And do some honest work exploring if it’s not only that you’re ignoring the warning signs, but that you’re actually attracted to them. My youngish, healthy parents are drawing up documents related to their estate.My father gave me the heads-up that they plan to leave my sister a larger percentage of the estate because “she needs it more.” That is true, and honestly I do not feel entitled to their money.You can’t assume they took this lightly; they could have debated it for years.The big picture will come: that they’ve loved and valued you for decades. That money can be simply a logistical tool, not necessarily an expression of emotion.