They will be your safeguards in situations where you may vacillate between choices, and you in turn may save them.” “In a dating and courtship relationship, I would not have you spend five minutes with someone who belittles you, who is constantly critical of you, who is cruel at your expense and may even call it humor.” “Simple and more frequent dates allow both men and women to ‘shop around’ in a way that allows extensive evaluation of the prospects.
The old-fashioned date was a wonderful way to get acquainted with a member of the opposite sex. It allowed you to see how you treat others and how you are treated in a one-on-one situation. Steady dating is courtship, and surely the beginning of courtship ought to be delayed until you have emerged from your teens.” “The Lord has made us attractive one to another for a great purpose. “It is for this reason that the Church counsels against early dating. It is designed to help you, and it will do so if you will observe it.
You will find a rapture and a joy fulfilled.” “Do you want capability, safety, and security in dating and romance, in married life and eternity? Be a genuine, committed, word-and-deed Latter-day Saint.
Believe that your faith has everything to do with your romance, because it does.
But in a day when so much nominalism passes for authentic maturity, give us a few simple marks of spiritual growth that a man or woman should be looking for in a potential spouse.
I think what you are looking for is seriousness about growth in the person’s faith.
To help find the right questions, we called on three not-yet-married friends who gave some time to thinking about the challenges faced by singles: Lore Ferguson, Paul Maxwell, and the recently engaged Marshall Segal.
We ended up with these questions: The Bible commands Christians to marry “in the Lord,” that is, to marry other Christians (1 Corinthians ; 2 Corinthians ).
But if you are in a context in which you have watched the person’s godliness, you have marveled at their character, you have rejoiced in what God has done in them and through them, then speed isn’t a big factor. What drove the speed wasn’t a flare-up of emotions — it wasn’t a fear of loneliness, or desperation, like maybe this is my only shot. Rather, there was knowledge of his faithfulness to God, his desire to serve the Lord, and his seriousness about the things of God.They are being discipled, whether that be organizationally or organically, whether they are part of a church’s system for discipleship or they just found an older man or an older woman and invited that person to speak into their lives.And I think those pieces are a much safer gauge than whether they highlight passages in their Bible and show up to service every week.Make certain that the marriage in your future is a temple marriage.There is no scene so sweet, no time so sacred as that very special day of your marriage. Be alert; do not permit temptation to rob you of this blessing.” The first day I saw Frances, I knew I’d found the right one.