Also, watch out for anyone who gets too emotional or angry at the mildest signs of incompatibility.And if you can’t even discuss ice cream flavours without it turning ugly, run like hell. whose needs are more important than the others – If someone is constantly trying to tip the balance in favour of their needs (i.e.An inability to balance ‘romance’ and ‘realism’ – Too much romance, and you both live in denial when bad things happen that need to be worked out.Too much realism, and you can lose the fun and care-free abandon that makes falling in love so special. Too much of either fundamentally misunderstands what relationships should be about. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_input. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_spinner. This is article #36 to be published on the Get The Guy blog from my brother Stephen.
No-one wants to be little more than a sidekick you happen to have sex with.
Being unable to forgive – For anything other than cheating, physical abuse, or him rummaging through your underwear drawer, forgive him quickly once the matter has been resolved (hell, forgive him for the underwear one too if he only does it ). Keeping score – Don’t ruin a selfless act of generosity by keeping track of precisely how many times you do it, or who spent money on whom. Not bringing up things when they’re a problem – You don’t need to share every tiny insignificant flicker of emotion, in fact, that can be downright draining.
Now, of course, I’m not saying that all other problems are easily solved. It can be hours or days or longer to discuss a particular problem like adults and understand each other’s point of view. But if something is bugging you for more than a week or two, have a conversation about it.
No shame in it, but he honest with yourself and fair with your partner.
Unwillingness to tolerate difference – I truly believe that one of the routes to a happy relationships is a mature acceptance that the keys to your partner’s happiness/love/satisfaction are not the same as your own.