Just make sure that you can honor your spouse and still be emotionally prepared for this new chapter of your life.Keogh says that overwhelming feelings of guilt can be an indication that you’re not quite ready to get back out there.So I tell her now, and I want all my kids and friends to listen: "As soon as you possibly can, after throwing my ashes off the boat into the Pacific, wrap the memories of our life together around you — and begin a new life.If three days, or three months, after I'm gone, you find a man who will love and cherish you for a few years as I have for so many, go for it!
Other people might have their own ideas about how long you should grieve before dating, but since grief is an individual process, you’re the only one who really knows when you’re ready.
However, dating should not be a therapy session, according to Keogh.
If you find yourself needing to have lengthy conversations about your late spouse and your grief, invest in professional help rather than unloading an emotional burden on to your date.
She is also a writing instructor, editor and former elementary school teacher.
She has a Master's degree in writing and a Bachelor of Arts in English and anthropology.