In this case it is easier to include even one or two extramarital affairs as part of a sex addiction.I will look at some of the underlying motives for sexually addictive serial cheating, the motives for stopping and when treatment can be successful.He or she may cheat once or many times but the prospects for change may be poor.
I have never met one who didn’t.” If you are a person who attracts unfaithful women, it will help if you begin to notice the patterns of behavior you both have BEFORE you get involved. If she talks about getting married, where you might buy a house and live, and how she has always wanted children, this is too fast. If she bakes you cookies, waits for you in a bubble bath at night, and purrs in your ear, you will find it hard to send her away when you find out she’s cheating. The death of someone close to you, going through a divorce, or being dumped by your former girlfriend can leave you feeling wobbly.You might see her out with someone else, read her email you weren’t supposed to see, listen to her phone messages, or get a call from her other boyfriend.You are hurt, she begs forgiveness, and she offers promises she just can’t keep.But sometimes the cheater is just an opportunist who is takes advantage of whatever pleasures come along without knowing or caring what anybody thinks.In this case the infidelity itself may not be a sexual addiction but may just represent pervasive pattern of immaturity, impulsivity, self-centeredness or antisocial behavior.