This is important and he will be talking about it, so listen with a keen intensity when he does.Here is a checklist: You must be definite that he is actually getting a divorce and has not just taken a few weeks off from his marriage to "find himself" or "get space." Are papers being filed or served? Any reports of progress are a green light that he is headed in the right direction as a possible partner for you.You might actually become a mini-expert on your state's legal nuances involving separation and community property. This is often a turnoff, but you can make this time matter for you in addition to just being a shoulder to cry on.Listen carefully to what he says about the judge's rulings; the law is based on reasonable expectations.Any stalling, or worse, attempts at reconciliation are red lights for you to put a stop to seeing him until he is officially, legally single. If so, that tells you that he is willing to work on disagreements as well as letting you know that the divorce was not a rash decision.
If he is happy to see things going along at a predictable pace, this is a man who does not relish conflict, and who also does not back down from seeing a task through – quite a good catch no matter what his recent circumstances have been.Again, counseling for someone in a relationship with heavy addiction issues is a must and any insistence that, "I'm not crazy, she's the one that's crazy," is a rehearsal for his lines in the movie that might become your life if you stick with him and he continues to live in denial about his role in things going bad.If he flat out does not know what went wrong with the marriage or is evasive, insist he get to the bottom of it with you. People with several planets in Libra tend to be diplomatic, sociable and communicative.People who were born when the sun was in Libra, are idealistic, fair-minded and alternately intense and blase (all that balance makes them express both sides of the spectrum from time to time). Not so much because they adore attention, like Saggitarians, but because they are naturally sociable and flighty, they know how to flatter, and they move quickly from one thing to another, not liking to dig too deeply or become embroiled in nasty and empassioned disagreements.