But you can—you must—rise above that kind of thinking! So before you’re ready to focus on one particular person, you need to take time to study a very important “subject”—how to build friendships.
(Romans 12:2) After all, the Bible urges you to “flee from sexual immorality.” (1 Corinthians , Being pressured to date before you’re ready would be like being forced to take a final exam for a course that you’ve barely started. You need time to study your subject so that you can become familiar with the kind of problems you’ll face in the test. Later, when you meet the right person, you’ll be in a better position to build a solid relationship.
Dating should have an honorable purpose—to help a young man and woman determine if they want to get married to each other.
Granted, some of your peers might take a casual view of dating.
(1 Corinthians ) To maintain close association with one particular member of the opposite sex while you’re still in this phase can fan the flames of desire and lead to wrong conduct. Many of them may be all too eager to experiment with sex.
I was a quiet, reserved child, and the tormenting I received from the black girls was miserable. Even though dark-skinned women get the short end of the stick at times, so do we light-skinned women. I've dated men who said they preferred light-skinned women. I've heard everything from "white girl, albino, snow white..." It's sad how blacks abuse each other (killing each other, colorism, etc) but then again that's what we've been taught since our ancestors were brought here.
As a result, I spent every recess in the school's library reading. I did, however, look at the clip you attached to the article. Name withheld: Here's a story from the summer of 2007, as best I can recall: My daughter - blonde, blue eyes, as white as can be - had just graduated from high school and had several good friends who were of darker complexion than she.
Perhaps they simply enjoy being with a special friend of the opposite sex, without any intention of marriage.
Some might even view such a friend as little more than a trophy or an accessory to be seen with in public to boost their own self-esteem.