However, if you’re open to it and feel comfortable, “I'm all for talking about sex on a first date—and it can be really hot,” she adds.
Guys often think that if they talk about themselves that they’re going to come across as self-centered or even weak.
Some blunders, like marriage and bigotry, you know to avoid. While it's good to be open and talk about your interests, you don’t want to take it to the extreme.
But even seemingly harmless topics can send up unintentional red flags. Lynn, a 27-year-old living in Brooklyn, says that other than asking what she does for work with no follow-up questions, the guys she’s been out with recently all talked about themselves the entire time. ” “I’m sure you like blondes more.” We all know confidence is one of the sexiest traits, so never put your date in the awkward position of having to incessantly bolster your self-esteem, warns Chicago-based relationship therapist, Laura Berman, LCSW, Ph. Not only does it shine a bright light on your (nonexistent) “flaws,” but it also forces him constantly reassure you, she adds.
These are questions with yes / no or one word answers.
The problem with these isn’t just that they don’t allow for the conversation to flow; It’s also that they can have her feeling a bit like she’s on a job interview. Ask open-ended questions that allow for longer answers.